“Eating healthy food, drinking water, getting enough exercise and sleep that’s the easy part,” says celebrity weight loss coach Autumn Calabrese, author of the new book Lose Weight Like Crazy, Even if You Have a Crazy Life. “So why do we struggle so much? It’s because we’re battling our mind, heart, and emotions, which are all very powerful. The traumatic experiences you endured in life are there to help build you into the person you are meant to be, but you have to choose how they define you. Do they fill you with self-doubt, self-hate, and self-sabotage or do they build you into a warrior?”
Her words hit home. The problem is this: we are filled with self-hate. We see ourselves as ugly, bad, stupid, worthless. We don’t believe we deserve anything, much less happiness, and that drives us to eat the wrong things, drink the wrong beverages, exercise the wrong way, and live the wrong life. If we can’t find our inner warrior, we will find someone else. Then we don’t find what we are meant to be.
“People have no idea how hard they are pushing themselves. They don’t realize how much harder they are pushing themselves,” says Calabrese. “If you have an inner motivation, you will say ‘No’ to the foods that make you feel bloated and sick. You will say ‘Yes’ to the foods that make you feel like a million bucks. You will say ‘No’ to the emotions that drive you crazy. You will say ‘Yes’ to the inner motivation.”
Why don’t we just stop searching for who we are? Why don’t we stop searching for who other people want us to be? What’s so hard about saying ‘No’ to the things that are not good for us?
“The inner motivation is not so hard,” says Calabrese. “There’s no mystery about it. It is all built around the word ‘will’. What’s hard is saying ‘Yes’ to something that you know is not good for you. There is no real will for saying ‘Yes’ to something that is not good for you.”
“This is what it takes to find your inner motivation,” says Calabrese. “You are going to get to a place where you say ‘Yes’ to the things that are good for you. When you get there, you will be able to say ‘Yes’ to the things you know you should say ‘No’ to.”
You can also take the next step and actually get an answer to the question of how you did it. One woman, who discovered she had the inner motivation to change her life for the better wrote in and asked, “How did I get all these eating disorders? I was just a normal person. I had friends and family. I went to work and made a lot of money. Why did I add this eating disorder to my life? What was I doing that I was not good enough to eat in public?”
After being told that her eating disorder was a side effect of her family’s history of weight problems, she was then told, “The important thing is, if you stay true to yourself, you can say ‘No’ to yourself before you get to ‘Yes’ to other people’s expectations. You must be the judge of whether something is right for you or not.”
Calabrese advises, “When it comes to accomplishing a change in your body, don’t get frustrated. “
One of the most important things to understand when starting a new exercise program is that you will need motivation and support. There is an old saying that says, “You can’t teach motivation, you can only inspire it.” For that to happen, people must first be inspired. And if someone is being inspired in a positive direction, they will naturally want to continue that attitude. “The opposite is true, however. If someone is being inspired in a negative direction, they will tend to seek assistance in maintaining that attitude.” So if someone asks, “What do I need to motivate me to exercise?,” the answer is, “Someone to encourage me in the right direction.” It is also important to understand that when someone seeks guidance on motivation, they will have the same needs as someone who seeks advice on, “What do I need to make a healthy habit?”
“What do I need to make a healthy habit?” The person will need to know what their goals are, why they want to make a healthy habit and the actions that are required to effect the desired result. There are different ways of deciding on your goals and objectives, and that will depend on what you would like to accomplish. A person could decide, “I just need to lose some pounds by next month, and I’d like to look good.” There are different types of health habits, including diet, workout routines, and water intake. If the goals are too broad, the goals are too broad, the steps become too broad, and the steps become too broad, you could be lost. Achieving your objectives may take far too long, and your motivation may evaporate. For that reason, a short, concise, and specific objective will suffice. “I will now exercise every day until I drop the pounds by next month.”
You may have different goals in different activities, so the objectives should indicate what the goal is. If you exercise in the morning, the objective should include what time, and the days that you exercise, and what kind of activity. Exercise should then be a choice, and it should be identified. “I exercise by walking, or I exercise during the day if I get up before 7 am.” It is not enough to just think of your objectives, you need to give them purpose, and you need to decide on the action that you are going to take in order to achieve them.
The choice of actions should be specific, “When I do my exercise, I will take the stairs or the elevator, and I will walk a certain distance. I will walk 5 minutes before I go to the toilet.” A decision is made, and the objective becomes a decision. It is specific and precise.
The objective can then be stated, “I will walk a distance of 20 minutes every day.” You can use a much shorter time frame than 5 minutes, and you can use an indefinite distance if you wish.
When you begin your exercise, the first thing to do is to start to readjust your expectations. Your expectations will influence your actions. You need to imagine yourself doing the actions exactly as they will occur. It is vital that you are flexible enough to readjust your expectations. It helps to write them down, and then you will be able to refer back to them easily. Remember, it is more important that you have goals than you have targets. If you have the same objectives every day, it will be difficult to make changes. Instead, have multiple targets, and set a new target every day, and decide on the action that you will take in order to achieve the new target.
Once your objectives are decided upon, the action is placed in a sequence, and it becomes part of a program. The objective will become a program of actions and you will feel comfortable with it. For example, if you have a target of not overeating between meals, but you are not ready to take action to achieve this target, then it is best to place it in the program as a program to readjust your expectations. It is easy to start making actions to achieve the objective, once you are ready to take the action. Once you have decided on your program, the choice of actions becomes a choice of whether or not to change your expectations. The goal is to change your expectations gradually so that it is not so overwhelming that you cannot proceed.
Action will create expectations
Once the actions have been chosen, it is time to create expectations about them. You must remember to create new goals with the new actions. You will need to start setting new expectations and actions if you want to continue doing the same things. You must remember that what you do with expectations will depend on the actions that you choose. However, it is important to remember that you are creating goals and expectations because the actions will have a strong influence on the goals and expectations. When you choose actions that would help you to achieve your objectives, and the actions are part of your program, you are creating an action plan, which is a program of actions. The program to achieve an objective is a program, and so are the expectations and actions for it. You must remember that the action plan is as important as the program of actions because the action plan will determine if you reach the goal or not.
What actions will help me to achieve my goals?
You must be clear about what actions will help you to achieve your goals. You must be careful in choosing the actions to do. You will need to consider the following when you choose actions that will help you to achieve your goals.
What kinds of actions would you have to do?
What conditions will help you to achieve your goal?
(conditions are needed to reach the goal such as the time you would have available, the space you have available, the money you have available, the things you can obtain, and the people you have to meet.)
What actions can help you to achieve the goal and what conditions will help you to achieve your goal?
In the first place, you must decide what kinds of actions you will need to take. Then, you must decide the conditions, which will help you to achieve your goal. Once you have decided these things, you must set a time for you to perform each action. These three things are all that you need to create the action plan that you will need to do. This action plan is the program of actions that will help you to achieve your objective and is called the action plan or action program. Your action plan will be based on your activity. You will do the same action, on a certain day in a certain place. It will be based on the action you will be going through.
Once you have created your action plan, you must take it seriously. Perform it according to the plan, and do it in a manner that is appropriate for the present state of your body. For example, if you have reached your objective, it is not good to eat junk food. You must eat healthy food like berries and oranges. Keep your action plan and action program to the highest standard and perform it with energy and enthusiasm.
You must also remember that the above is only an example. You must do what you think is right and is based on your objective. Be not influenced by others. They will have their own opinion and it will affect your action. In case you think that it is appropriate to take any action, carry it out. But, remember that you have to do it in a manner that is appropriate to your state of health. Do not exaggerate the actions that you will do. Be confident in your actions and you will achieve your objective. Never give up. Never let go of the objective that you want to achieve.